marriage and relationships

Although my hubs and I are both college graduates, with good jobs, none of it came easy. My husband had a rough time with relocation and divorce in the family. I had the entire financial responsibility with loans and the like on mine.

But. We both made it. My husband graduated a semester before myself and we found out we were pregnant the summer before my final semester in nursing school. He buckled down, got a job (even though he REALLY wanted to move to the beach), leased an apartment (in the same complex as my great grandmother, what a doll!!!) and got us some insurance (thank you, Jesus).

We were married that summer.

I completed nursing school at the round age of 8 months pregnant, with twins. SUCK IT!!! And went to term, to deliver the two most beautiful baby girls in our world.

A gift.

Yes. We think so too.

Because although my husband and I were having problems and have continued to have spats throughout our relationship, we are doing better then many of our married friends. We have outlasted at least one of his friends marriages. With double the sacrifice and double the turmoil. Because we work at it. No one said it would be easy, or a fairytale. Love is work.

Every day we fight to keep our marriage. Every single day. EVERYONE should. Even when our life feels perfect.

Although we grow up thinking we will marry the man of our dreams and it will be a perfect beautiful relationship that will stand the test of time forever. Problems happen. Situations arise. SHIT HAPPENS GUYS!!!! This is the idea that is ingrained in our barbie brained society. NOTHING IS EASY. WORK FOR IT. The most perfect marriage will have problems, but the easy way out is divorce. So do it. Fight it out. Make it happen. Be brutally honest. Be ridiculously blunt. Get drunk together and talk about past relationships. DO IT. It makes you more human to your mate.

Some people think we had it rough. Because my husband and I were in a relationship that was quickly ending when we found out we were pregnant. I think we had it easy.

Because we already knew.

We knew it would be hard, that our lives wouldnt be easy. That we would have to fall in love over and over again to keep it real.

And guess what?

That's exactly what we've been doing.

And we've suffered from none of the idiotic misconceptions that other couples walk into marriages with, the idea that your entire life is peaches and cream from this moment forward.

People said we'd never last.

Here's my finger. You know which one..

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